Women need women friendships. It’s important. Women support one another in ways that male friendships do not. The problem, our sexist society teaches girls and women to compete with one another, not support one another. Why? Because women united together are powerful.

You ever notice how often girls are taught not to like another girl? For silly things too, like she’s pretty or some boy likes her. Meanwhile boys can fight and still be friends? Yes, this crazy behavior is taught. Watch any show that caters to a girl audience. It’s sad. Girls are taught from a young age to dislike one another, to suspect one another, to not see their greatness together. Sexism just like racism is a mechanism of control. Keep girls and women controlled, keep the power.

That’s why it’s so important to encourage healthy friendships with one another and most especially with our girls. The truth is women make better teams. And that is a threat to sexism. The only way to completely break sexism it to make sure you keep the bonds of women friendship strong.

This isn’t to say that every woman will be best friends with every other woman but to make sure you continue to have great bonds with other women and to make sure you are teaching your daughters that women friendships can and do happen and they are great. I encourage my daughter to have great friendships. To always empower each other. To always see that there is no competition because together girls are stronger.

One of the first steps to achieving this goal is to unlearn the behavior you’ve been taught. A lot of women don’t even know they have been programed to look at other women suspiciously. Next time you meet a new woman, instead of thinking a suspicious or negative thought about her, find something positive and focus on that. The more you do this the more you will notice how you were creating negative experiences with other women. Societal programing is a real thing. Going forward always endeavor to create bigger circles of woman friendship. It’s possible.

Bigger circles of woman friendship also means less misinformation about each other. Think about who the misinformation benefits. Usually it’s no one (or some guy). Less misinformation, greater bonding. More positive experiences and more growth.

While sexism tries to make women not like each other I am here to say women friendships make the world great.

~ Kai

P.S. Shoutout to my girls! Love you all!